September 16, 2009


Today is my due date. Well kind of.  I guess technically, it was the 13th, but whatever.  We all know a due date is really just a date given to pregnant women to tease them. It's so strange because "September 16" is this familiar date that I've known for 36ish weeks or so as the goal. The end. Much like "May 26" was with Jack. People have asked when I'm due for 6 or 7 months and I've said, "September 16th" hundreds of times.

But the day has come and almost gone and I've had no signs of any sort of progress at all. All of my feelings a few weeks ago that the baby would come early have proven to be inaccurate. In about two hours, this baby will officially be late.

I told Kyle that it's like counting down the days to your birthday, and then everyone sort of forgetting that it was your birthday. Total letdown. The day that you've held in such high regard for so long has come and gone with nothing to show for it.

I have a doctor's appointment tomorrow in which we'll discuss what to do if he's not here in another week. Part of me wants to give it two weeks past my due date just to do what I can to avoid the dreaded pitocin. But given Jack's size and how much bigger this baby seems, I also don't want to end up in a c-section because he's too big for me to push out. I had really hoped to not have to make this decision.

Oh well. No one stays pregnant forever. I just want him to arrive and for him to be healthy . . . whenever that may be.


Elisa said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family! I remember the feeling all too well of my due date coming and going. I'm with you, if I was having another baby I would definately try to avoid the whole pitocin experience. Hang in there and I can't wait to hear the news when he arrives!!

Xander said...

soooo.... i'm wondering if you're baby will be "late" in 2 hours because it will be midnight (and no longer sept 16) or because that was the exact moment know... ????

Sara Neufeld said...

I remember with Avery, telling myself over and over "I won't be pregnant forever." ;)
hang in there
maybe do like 100 jumping jacks.

Emily said...

Ok, I can't relate to this (going past your due date) at all, but I do know a bit about medical interventions for childbirth. I don't consider childbirth a reason for medical intervention though, unless there is a problem. If you don't mind medical intervention, ignore what I have to say. It was terribly important to me to have a completely natural birth, but that is not important to everyone. After all the goal is to deliver a baby safely, no matter how!

FYI, it is RARE that a baby is "too big" to push out. I would HIGHLY recommend waiting 2 more weeks before you let anyone induce medically. Pitocin produces hard contractions, and a lot of times ends in c-section.

Angela said...

Good luck!! I logged on to look at some of your invitations, not knowing you were pregnant. I am due next week but have been 3 cm dilated and 90% effaced for three weeks now... If she doesn't come next week they want me to go with "the dreaded pitocin" as well.
You will be in my thoughts and prayers!

Anonymous said...

You can do it! Just wait, let your body do what God created it to do. The natural process your body will go through in preparing to give birth without induction will better prepare your body to deliver a large baby and help you avoid a c-section. My last was 12 days late, delivered by midwives at home with no intervention (other than some serious prayer) and came out measuring 9 lbs, 11 oz with the biggest head they'd ever delivered. There were times I wondered if he would come out, but they switched my position from the birthing tub to on my back, hips elevated and pulled up on my pubic bone (not as painful as it sounds) and helped him ease around it and out. If baby seems to have difficulty coming out, change positions. Don't be afraid to try different things, women for ages delivered in so many other ways than in stirrups.

I understand your situation is different from mine and I'm not trying to tell you what to do at all, but please, pray, trust God and the way He created you. I just want to encourage you like the people around me encouraged me. Don't walk in fear!

Minnie said...

Good luck, Sweetie.
Sending prayers and well wished your way.