I am the anti-hoarder. I like to throw things away. I mean . . . really, really like to throw things away.
I'm not super
organized or neat. My house is often a mess (by my standards, at least). But I
really, really like to simplify life by having less laying around . . . much to the dismay of my kids.
meal toys last an average of 7 minutes once they're through the door.
Art projects are rarely saved for more than a day or two. The really
special ones do get left out for a while, but then move to storage.
When Jack was little, I had this grand vision of taking pictures of him
with his art projects before we, um, "relocated" them, but I never kept
the projects long enough to get around to photographing them. A few
times, we've had to dig through
trash to find important lists or notes that Kyle has left laying around,
because I thought they were trash and tossed them. Back in May, I went
through the boys' toys and got rid of half of them. The other half
were divided and stored according to our new toy storage system . . .
which deserves an entire post of its own.
I do feel bad this week, though, after hearing about Jack's
conversation with his grandma. She told him that he left the mask he
made in her car, and asked if he wanted it back. His response was,
"No. If I bring it home, it'll just get thrown away."
Ugh. That was like a kick in the stomach.
I don't really know how to find the balance, though. Clutter
makes me crazy. I can't function in a cluttered house. And honestly,
what do you do when your child brings this home and wants to keep it
forever and ever?
At the same time, I don't want my kids to feel like I don't value
their creativity or have respect for what is theirs. Will I look back
20 years from now and wish that I still had every preschool picture that
Jack drew? I don't think that I will. But I don't want the boys to
look back and remember a mom who was more intent on keeping the clutter
down than on celebrating their creativity.
I hope that I can find that balance. I would welcome any suggestions.